Quality time You come up with a bunch of ideas about what you and your partner can do when you’re together.

You make an effort to offer reassurance to your partner, and compliments are a key to your heart.

Words of affirmation You value sharing your emotions and hearing your partner talk about theirs.

Acts of service You look for ways to be helpful, like finishing the chores, making dinner, or running important errands - and you appreciate when your partner does the same for you.Gifts You show love and care with gifts, put extra time and effort into finding the perfect gift, and enjoy receiving gifts yourself.See if you recognize yourself or your partner in any of these categories. Think about how you express affection and respond to your partner’s displays of affection. There are some telltale signs that you favor one love language over the others, suggests The 5 Love Languages. You prefer to bond through physical contact. Think hugging, kissing, holding hands, cuddling, and having sex. This may mean sharing a meal, taking a staycation, or learning a new skill together like painting, pottery, or dancing. You feel most loved while spending meaningful, focused time with your partner. For you, words speak louder than actions. You most appreciate giving and receiving love through kind words, including compliments, praise, cheerleading, and other verbal expressions of support or admiration. When others do the same for you, you feel loved. You demonstrate your affection with thoughtful gestures, such as cooking a meal, cleaning the house, or filling the car with gas. Acts of ServiceĪctions speak louder than words. You express love through presents. These can be small tokens or bigger items. Even if you can relate to different expressions of love, Chapman’s theory is that we all have a primary language that speaks to us the most.īefore delving deeper into love languages, let’s outline each one. The five love languages framework aims to help couples hear and say “I love you” by recognizing expressions of love from their romantic partners and showing love themselves in ways the other person in that relationship can appreciate.

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